As I kick off the important lessons I’ve learned over the last 10 years of getting ready for my major career change, I knew that I’d be doing you a disservice if I jumped straight into the financials and skipped the character building skills you’ll need to be successful.

Warren Buffett, when asked what you should invest in first, made a point that you should invest in your education. Making money, and making businesses that are successful, takes more than just marketing know-how.  They take leaders, people who have character.

So what does a person of character look like? And how can I be that person?

1. Changing Your Personality Is Impossible

Lets face it, there is nobody else just like you. And just as you are unique, there is no reason that you should try to be someone else’s uniqueness. If you try, you’ll fail. You don’t need to be somebody else. You can build character by being the best you that you have ever been.

This is called being genuine.

So how does one move on from there, and become more than they currently are? It comes from doing the hard work of self-evaluation, and self-improvement. Trust me, this is monumentally difficult. But it is in doing difficult things, that we find the most growth.

Back when I started my 10 year prep plan to becoming a writer/independent filmmaker, I read a few books by John C. Maxwell. I strongly encourage you to pick up some of his book. In them, he emphasizes creating a growth plan.

This isn’t just something where you say I’m going to be better this year than I was last year, no, this is an actual goal-based plan that you can measure track, and evaluate. I was so inspired by this at the time, that I became a religious growth plan fanatic.

On my computer at work, every day, my screen would first boot up with my growth plan. I’d see an inspirational quote that applied to me at that time. I would read it, and try to live it. Often it was a verse or set of verses from the scriptures.

Then there was my spreadsheet, because I’m big into spreadsheets. In that spreadsheet, I had yearly, monthly, weekly, and daily goals. I updated this thing every month, and worked on the habits and attributes that I most wanted to solidify in my life.

Every year, I evaluated my progress, added new qualities that I wanted to have in my life, and made new goals and plans on how to achieve those things. There were multiple categories too. Some were spiritually based, some were character based, and some were family based. Few of them were financially based. My goal with this was to become the best person I could be.

I never wanted to be just like anyone else, because I loved who I was. Keep in mind, that I was an introvert, never popular, and often unsure of myself. You don’t have to be the most charismatic person in the world to love who you are. I’m still introverted. I’m still not a popular person. But I can talk to people. I’ve learned to be a salesman. I’ve learned to be articulate when the time comes for it. But for many of the qualities that I don’t have, I had to work hard at them, and I had to push myself beyond my comfort zone to achieve any level of proficiency in them.

I’m still the same me I was before, I’m just a better me for all that effort.

2. What Characteristics Should You Focus On?

Just as in my growth plan, I suggest you break this down into categories. Keep in mind that even though I place some of these in one of the categories, working on them doesn’t just benefit that category, most of these cross into all categories. The categories are more to help you brainstorm ideas that you might not normally consider applicable to your overall goals, yet if you think about it, they impact every aspect of your life considerably.

1. Business

Salesmanship, marketing, integrity, work ethic, service, organization, customer relations, employee relations, problem solving, etc.

2. Spiritual

Sympathy, meekness, desire for righteousness, mercy, purity, peacemaker, long-suffering, charity, virtue, honesty, sincerity, love, faith, etc.

3. Morals

Accountability, courage, boldness, compassion, discipline, adaptability, creativity, appreciation, assertiveness, authenticity, collaboration, confidence, kindness, wisdom, ambition, etc.

You can make other categories up if it helps you come up with character traits that you find admirable and would want to incorporate into your life. This is just an example.

3. Why Go Through All That Effort?

Life is about growth. We want a growing family, a growing business, a growing economy. Humans are programmed to feel better about themselves when they have a growth mindset.

When we grow our personal strengths and character, we find more joy in every day living. Our family and friend relationships a more fulfilling, and we discover that success is more attainable in business and in life, if for no other reason than we have a positive outlook on where we are now, and where we are going.

One of the most depressing things in the world, is stagnation, and backtracking. These things can be addictive and harmful, but all too easy, whereas character growth is hard but rewarding in so many ways. Everything worth doing, generally is hard.

After just coming out of foot surgery, one of the 1^st things that I’m required to do is start stretching and strength training. Sometimes it hurts. Sometimes I’m tired and don’t want to do it. But as I stick to my physical therapy, my foot gets increasingly better, I become more mobile, and I’m able to do more than I did the week before.

If you can learn to adopt a growth mindset, even establish a growth plan to keep you on track, and constantly work on adopting and improving all those desirable characteristics that define a good person, you’ll find that the world opens up to you.

Pessimism, depression, and anxiety lose their control over you. Grace, defined as enabling power, starts to take real hold in your life.

Let’s take a trip down memory lane for a minute. What was your childhood like?

Assuming you came from a good family and life was mostly non-chaotic, you probably had a pretty good childhood. Of course that is assuming a lot. We didn’t all grow up with the ideal circumstances. And if that is you, do you have kids now that are growing up with more stable foundations? Or do you know of someone with kids that are doing good?

Here’s the thing, kids are amazing. They embody everything innocent, curious, and fun that life has to offer. They are sponges, always trusting and eager to learn. They are the epitome of a positive thinking human.

Is it any wonder that Jesus Christ urged all his followers to be more childlike?

At some point in our lives, the wonder and amazement of living starts to take a turn towards the cynical and sometimes pessimistic thinking that we often see around us. But this doesn’t happen to all of us. Some of us still maintain that positive outlook on life. These people are truly lucky. Lets talk about why.

1. Why Is Being Optimistic, Positively The Best Mentality To Own?

There’s a lot that can get us down. Sometimes its the unforeseen consequences of our actions, regardless of how well intentioned they started out. Sometimes life is just hard, for no fair reason at all. There are a lot of people who can tell you a lot of reasons why their life is so difficult, but you don’t want to listen to that, because your challenges are just as, if not infinitely worse off.

The more we dwell on the guilt, the hardness, the unfairness of everything, the more it leads us into depression and anxiety. Then there are those annoying people, who are always chipper. They have it all going for them. Trouble seems to bounce off them, like they were some Marvel comic hero.

How is it that they got so lucky? Here’s the truth, they have just as much crap happening in their life as you do. For whatever reason they have somehow managed to adopt an attitude of gratitude, an outlook of optimism, a patter of positivity.

This mentality allows them to see the good in every situation. Negative consequences for their actions turn into meaningful learning experiences. Illness and tragedy help them see the value in their relationships all the more. There is one other thing that they get, that negative thinking can never grant, and that is a higher degree of success in all their activities.

Rather than feeling overwhelmed by tasks that seem insurmountable, they dive in and get the work done. Employers trust, hire, and promote them over negative thinking people, because even if they are just as good if not worse than others, they don’t complain and they lift the mood of the company culture. Their attitude puts them in a position to learn and grow more quickly.

Positive thinking also helps you out in your family. People want to be around others who lift them up and make them happy. You cannot do this if you are always focused on the negative.

2. What About Being Realistic?

There is a real place for being realistic, even for the perpetually optimistic. Sometimes, too much optimism can lead to overconfidence and error. Tempering positive thinking with a degree of realism should always be considered, however, it can be all too easy to allow realism to morph into pessimism.

Was realistic thinking a factor in Amazon’s founder—Jeff Bezos career? He thought outside the box and created a hugely disruptive company. How about the Wright Brothers? The examples are too numerous to expound upon.

Did they still face a huge amount of risk in their endeavors? Of course, but risk isn’t always bad. Stupid risk is bad. Climbing a cliff without any safety gear, I would argue that is stupid risk, even if it is highly optimistic of the free climber to do.

I was blessed with an optimistic outlook on life. I think my faith in God had a lot to do with it. Not ever fully growing up helped a little too. Being a positive thinker is what attracted my wife to me. Being a positive thinker is what allowed me to rebound after I lost $500,000 in a failed business launch.

I’ve got two foot surgeries this year that are crippling me for 4-6 months each, with about 2 years of physical therapy to look forward to after that before I can be truly recovered, and where everyone else is offering their sympathies, I’m looking forward to it. I’ve prepared my life for the disruptions, so that even when I’m stuck in bed for months at a time, I’ll have work to keep busy with, and no reason to feel frustrated, confined or sorry for myself.

This positive thinking has been a huge superpower in my life, but what if you struggle with this?

3. How To Overcome Negative Thinking

This is so hard to do. We all know and want to be better, but our feelings are so ingrained in our subconscious, that it’s next to impossible to reach in there and flip it like a switch.

So can it even be done? Absolutely. There are multiple methods. I would suggest that one of the strongest sources of healing from this type of thinking can be achieved through faith in a power that is higher than us. Yes I’m talking about God.

Faith in a God that has a plan for us, can proffer a powerful change in how we think and feel.

Also, creating an actual goal based growth plan can help. I’ve done this, and it can really change your life. Rather than listing out your problems, because you’re already very familiar with those, list out the good qualities you already have, the blessings you’ve already received. These are the things, especially as we compare ourselves with others, that we tend to forget about.

Then once you see all the good in your life, create goals around the good you still want to add to your life. Make the goals small enough that you can achieve them, but big enough that you have to stretch for them.

Create pre-programmed responses for when common disappointments happen. Craft these responses in a way that you think should make you feel better, even if in the beginning it doesn’t work.

Talk to yourself as if you were already there. The lies you tell yourself will eventually become the truth you tell yourself. It may sound funny, but your subconscious can be convinced by your conscious persuasions, though some might take longer than others to convince.

In the end, it truly is a blessing to have a positive outlook on life. But if you feel that you’ve lost that, for any reason at all, find a way to gain it back. Lost loved ones want you to be happy, your employer wants you to be happy, your employees want you to be happy, and your living friends and family want you to be happy.

You can do it, I believe in you!

Don’t forget to check out my YouTube Channel. I have a fun skit about being positive:

https://youtu.be/0TS9WEe9-1o

When you think about culture, what crosses your mind? Do you think of nationality? Race? Identity?

Often we think of culture as sacred, something that is meant to be preserved, no matter what. There is however another side to culture that we should consider, a darker side.

I’m talking about successful vs unsuccessful cultures.

But wait, isn’t he definition of culture, a pattern of behaviors that has lasted for generations?

Yes, but that doesn’t mean that they are all as good as the other when it comes to helping you as an individual. I don’t plan on breaking down any culture in particular, but I do want to address some of the things you should be looking into when evaluating your own culture.

This is hard stuff, because culture is so ingrained in our subconscious mind, that we might know readily see it, but lets try.

1. Is Your Culture Holding You Back?

I’m sorry, but this is who I am, and its who my parents were before me, and so on. This is and always will be a terrible excuse.

If you ever find yourself playing the blame game, chances are, you’ve adopted a toxic culture. You are assigning all your problems to someone else, and then living with those circumstances. Blame is something we bestow on others to make ourselves feel better about the woes that beset us.

Sometimes this blame game can also be played against ourselves. When this happens, we find ourselves with the next cultural problem, self-doubt. We can’t ever get anywhere, because we aren’t good enough, or every time we try, we mess it up. We shame ourselves and our decisions. We learn that we are never going to be good enough.

Why is that even a cultural thing? Because if you’re telling yourself you’re not good enough, it’s likely because the people in your life were the same ways as you are. They might be supportive in all you do, they most likely love you, but their toxic self-doubts about themselves only perpetuates that sort of thinking in you.

The people in your life can also, unintentionally also act like crabs in a bucket. Maybe you’ve heard that if you put crabs in a bucket, they’ll keep pulling each other back down, so that none can escape. We do the same thing with those we love most.

Maybe we have an idea, maybe its a good one, maybe its ambitious. Great! Your family and friends admit as much. Maybe they also admit that it would be cool if somebody did that idea some day. By this, they mean somebody who is not you.

Subliminally, they are casting doubt on your plans.

I remember in my childhood, I told a family member that I wanted to be a filmmaker. “That’s great,” they said. “Only, we don’t know anyone in that business, and you have to know the right people.”

As a young kid, that short forgotten conversation meant a lot to me. It was the day my dreams were crushed. I lived with that, clear up until about 10 years ago, when I rediscovered my desire to be a filmmaker. Only this time, I had the confidence to break free from that doubt.

What sort of shackles of the mind are holding you back from chasing your dreams?

Chances are, they’re so strong and tied to your upbringing, that your ambitions might feel next to impossibly to achieve.

2. How To Break Free

So how do you go about fixing the negative aspects of your culture? Should you run away from all your family and friends and start over?

Chances are, you’ll take that culture with you. In fact, if running away sounds like a good option, look back and see if any of your family and friends ever did something similar. This little exercise might surprise you.

So what do we do?

As a religious man, I’m exposed to several inspiring messages on a regular basis, one of them is from the leaders of the Church Of Jesus Christ Of Latter-Day Saints. They have often invited people to come to Christ, not to leave their culture behind, but to bring the best of their culture with them, and allow the church to add more to their lives.

I love this line of thinking. When we are looking to change our culture into something that better benefits us and our children, look for the good in the culture you have. Acknowledge the bad, but focus on the good, and figure out what you can add to it, that will improve it. Otherwise, you might get stuck right back where you started, blaming your culture, and turning your back on all that is good in your life.

The world is so full of good examples, inspiring people, and worthy pursuits, that you should never find yourself at a loss when it comes to seeking self improvement. A lot our circumstances can be directly affected by our mindset. If you take yourself, where-ever your culture has placed you, and work on improving your mindset, you can create a whole new world of possibilities that your current mindset never before dreamed was possible.

Today’s article might be a little different. I dive into my own goals and processes to find my way. Follow along and see if this line of thinking can be valuable to you, as you work towards your goals as well.

For this topic, I’ve been I’ve been asking myself a lot lately, who cares about me? I’m not talking about whether someone should care about you as a person, just in the goals you’re working towards selling them on.

For over ten years now, I’ve been learning how to write novels and make movies. It’s my dream job. But with so much entertainment out there in the book and video world, how is anyone going to find me, let alone want the art I’m creating?

As I get started into this new career, I’ve been taking 2025 as a transitional period. I’ve been stepping back from my construction job a little, and been focusing more on my writing and film making.

Granted, I’ve also been getting two major foot surgeries this year, one in April, and one in September, which have prevented me from being terribly mobile. So aside from my writing, I’ve bee working on building a YouTube Platform.

If you’ve ever done anything like this, you probably know, it can be a little disheartening. Lets talk about it.

1. Getting Noticed Amidst All The Noise

When I first started self publishing my books, I was doing so under the pen name of B.C. Crow. This was because they were my first books, and I felt they weren’t going to be up to the standard that I wanted to write at. So I chose to publish them, in hopes of recouping some money. I was able to sell several copies, though I quickly lost ambition to sell more, because I felt they needed to be better, and I didn’t want somebody to pay good money for less than stellar storytelling.

Flash forward to today, my writing has improved markedly. But did I spend a lot of time promoting my last book? No. In fact, I almost published it silently, hoping instead for a slow and steady buildup of momentum, because I didn’t want to sink a lot of marketing into that book, only to have it go wasted for my readers by not having another good book published and waiting for them.

I am getting closer to having that next book ready for publication, and will thus be starting a larger marketing push, however there’s still that nagging fear in the back of my mind, will anyone buy it?

This is the same with my YouTube channel. I’ve been pretty steady about posting content that I think would be helpful for someone wanting to follow in my same footsteps. However, starting out from nothing, hoping it turns into something is tough.

I often ask myself, am I doing something wrong, right, or does it just take time to get noticed? Will it ever get noticed?

These doubts can easily get a person down if they’re not careful.

2. How To Keep On Keeping On

There’s a couple of thought I have on this. First is that you need to make sure that what you’re doing is relevant, that it solves a need that someone else has. The question is, how do you know what their needs are?

I often feel like most marketing advice is telling me to read my audiences mind, when in fact, I barely even know who my audience is. In fact, I feel I have two separate audiences. One that should be interested in my style of fiction, both literary and visual, and then there’s the people like me, who were enjoying their jobs, life, etc, but then got addicted to writing and film-making, and wanted to someday make a career out of it.

What I don’t know, is how many people out there are there like that? Also how many of them are willing to test out my works of fiction? I don’t know.

I can guess there’s a healthy amount, because some of the places I’ve learned from or been inspired by on YouTube, have had decent sized audiences, but are they all tapped out? Will they find my content valuable?

A lot of marketing advice seems centered around people who already have some track record, not those who are starting from scratch.

My other thoughts on figuring this all out, is to ignore all the noise and do what you’re passionate about. Passion often creates its own momentum. The problem with this line of thinking is that you could get trapped in a long-term play that never pans out.

The passion project though, does merit some consideration. By enlarge, despite diversified tastes, a lot of people are more similar than you might think. We all face many similar challenges with work, money, family, health, and confidence. If there’s something you’re passionate about, chances aren’t too far off that there are others with similar tastes, even if they don’t know it yet.

I think finding a marriage between knowing and catering to your audience, combined with following your passion is helpful. The trick is, doing what you’re passionate about, then finding your audience and guiding them to see why your perspective is relevant to them.

3. Using The Tools Available

YouTube is not the endgame for most of us, its a tool. All the marketing subscriptions to help leverage your YouTube Channel are tools as well. Blogs and Facebook and so many other things out there will likely never be your endgame, they just help you find and understand your audience.

So for me, and maybe for you, the game isn’t about having the biggest social media following. The goal is to know who I can provide value to, and then to supply them with that special brand of value that I’m so passionate about creating, without wasting tons of money and effort chasing down the wrong audience.

Getting monetized on YouTube is not what I want to pay my bills with. Getting monetized on that platform would for me, serve only to justify that I’ve found my market, and to help support my development of that audience.

So as I evaluate my current strategy on YouTube, I realize that since I want to make my career from writing books and making movies, that the content I create on YouTube might not develop that type of audience, since my content is just trying to help the people on my same journey.

Perhaps some of them will appreciate my stories as well, but there is a disconnect. So would it be smart of me to change my tactics?

Probably. 

Could I pursue both at this time?

Sure, but it won’t likely forward my end goal.

So what should I do?

I’m conflicted here. I know what I should do, I should harmonize my content that I put out there, with the fiction I want to be writing. At the same time, there’s a lot of important lessons that I want to produce content over, for no other reason than the fact that my family has expressed an interest in learning what I know about finance and other things that could help them in their lives.

Whenever I’ve tried to teach them about the things they want to know, the lessons get long and they get overwhelmed. So breaking them down into 10-15 minute YouTube videos, with some fun skits mingled in, is an easily digestible way of teaching them.

So yes, I want to keep producing the YouTube content and Blogs that I want them to learn from, but at the same time, I need to find a better connection with my audience.

I—in fact, had not come to this conclusion prior to starting this article. You have just witnessed my self-revelation in the making. So the next step for me, if I choose not to foolishly ignore my own advice, would be to find ways to change my approach.

Can I still make content for my family and storytellers like me?

Yes, I believe so, but I need to be more strategic about how I do this. The first thought that comes to mind, would be to lean more into my skits, and less into my lectures at the end of the skits. Kind of like when you watch a movie, then stick around to hear the commentary or behind the scenes that went with that.

This creates another problem, finding the time and budget to make skits that are more than 1 or 2 minutes long is hard. At some point, I’ll have to start hiring someone to help me, rather than just doing them all myself, with the occasional help from my wife.

That or I can take another approach, and forget about my plans to teach my family and followers from my YouTube content, opting instead to talk about fiction, and movies, and such.

I guess I’ve got some thinking to do. But for now, I hope this exercise has helped you see some of the questions you could ask yourself as you’re looking to discover your audience and connect with them.

As for me, for the near term, I’ll keep posting as I’ve planned, but I might start making some small pivots to be more relevant.

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Have you ever wondered how you can make it as an artist, and still provide financially for you and your family?

What if your career in the arts takes too much time to start getting noticed and generating money?

These are real world questions that all of us need to answer if we want to pursue a creative career, especially if it’s in a field that is struggling to make a profit, like today’s market.

These questions and more went into my decision to spend ten years preparing for my career in art. Let me share with you how I’m trying to mitigate some of those challenging risks as I go forward as an independent writer and movie producer.

1. Don’t Rely On A Single Income Stream

Maybe money doesn’t matter to you. Perhaps you feel that the pursuit of cash is capitalist propaganda and is inversely correlated to the pursuit of happiness. I’m not like that.

At the same time, I’m not what I’d consider materialistic either. I’m fine driving a drab car, I’m okay with mediocre living conditions. I’ve been there. But I’ve also learned that money makes the world a much easier place to navigate when you have it, especially if you’re raising a family.

I was also painfully aware that if I pursued my dream of being a writer/producer, there would be a few years, where I likely wouldn’t make any money at all, perhaps I’d even lose money. Considering that movie making is an expensive way to express yourself, I didn’t want to start this career financially unprepared.

For that reason, my 10 year plan to get ready for this new endeavor, included finding ways so that I didn’t have to rely on my art to be financially independent. First off, I had to learn what could generate money for me when I made the switch, and which would still allow me to work on my writing and filming. At the time, I knew how to work hard, and that was about it. I didn’t know how to invest. So began my journey to becoming financially stable.

Over the course of those ten years, I learned as much as I could about the stock market, real estate, and business. Since I was in the home development and construction field, understanding how to invest in real estate became my first learn.

I learned that buying properties, improving them, and selling them quickly was one of the best ways to grow your money fast. I made a career out of buying vacant land, developing it into subdivisions, building homes on them, and selling them. It took a lot of work, and I had to reinvest every dollar I had into the next project, and I still had to take out massive loans to do these sorts of projects. All the while, I had to deal with market fluctuations. This is not a career that is risk free, especially since I know plenty of developers who went belly up over the same time period that I was doing this. But it forced me to save money, learn business and marketing skills, and get me on a good path.

The next real estate lesson I learned, was that buying and holding cash flowing real estate was a good long-term investment. Unlike buying, improving, then flipping properties, this one requires a much longer time frame, which can be hard if you don’t want to tie up your cash that long. Like the other, loans can be a helpful tool, as long as you’re smart with them, and don’t let them ruin you. The profitability here is smaller than flipping, but its a little more steady.

For me, I started by turning over my money as often as possible, but now that I’ve got a little saved up, I’m switching to building long term cash flowing rentals units. These should provide me with a steady stream of income to help keep me solvent, even if my studio doesn’t make any money for the first few years, or ever.

Another avenue of income is the stock market. It took me a while to figure this one out. I didn’t want to be a day trader, though that is always tempting, because I don’t want to spend every day, stuck in front of my charts when I could be writing or film-making.

So I learned how to trade options on a monthly basis, creating cash flow in a safer, steadier way. This is not without risk, but on average, I can make a profit over time, and I only have to check the markets for 15 minutes or so each morning, freeing me up to do what I really need to work on.

I’ve also come across other investment opportunities over the years that have intrigued me. I did some angel investing for a vitamin company, which turned out to be a great investment, and currently pays me over $4000 each month. I Also learned about investing in oil rigs, and other financial tools that can generate cash flow.

2. Take The Time To Learn About Investing

There is no doubt that investing is a complicated world. There are many risks, which some people find too scary to get involved in. I have lost a lot of money in some of my investments. Some of that is the luck of the draw, and some of that turned into important learning opportunities.

What I could not have done, was any of this without taking the time to learn about it, and pinching every penny to put into it.

In the mornings, I worked on improving my art. Then I went to my day job for 10 hours each day. When I got home in the evenings, I spent a lot of time researching and learning. That’s even after I had my degree in finance. What I did not do, was go home and play video games and watch TV all night.

Nor did I spend hardly any money on frivolous things. For Christmas, especially early on, my wife and I gave ourselves a $25 budget for each other. You can’t imagine how creative we got, and those were fun memories. Even our Christmas tree was cut from the branches of a tree that had already blown over in a massive wind storm.

In the end, I wanted my ten years of prep to learn all I could about investing, but also have the money to put that knowledge into practice. Now, ten years later, I’m making the transition, and I’m incredibly grateful for my dedication to learning all this, and to my wife’s dedication to living a thrifty life. I’m in a great position to make a go at this artistic lifestyle that I’ve been preparing for, all these years.

If you want to learn more about how you too can safeguard your future, follow me here, or on my LightMinded Arts YouTube channel, where I’ll be sharing a lot of these life lessons and financial essentials. I’m putting this together for my wife and kids to learn, and I’m inviting you to join me for free.

If I was to die tomorrow, one of the biggest life lessons that I think my family, or anyone could benefit from, would be to develop a strong work ethic.

I’m not just talking about showing up and working a full 40 hour work week either. Rare is the week when I only work 40 hours. I’m talking about showing up for life with a burning desire in your gut to get to work.

This work ethic is doubly important for any of us looking to get into an artistic career, since many of us might need to work extra hard just to make ends meet.

1. By The Sweat Of Thy Brow…

We read in the bible, that when Adam and Eve were cast out of the garden of Eden, God told them that “By the sweat of your brow you will eat your bread.” He basically says that they’re going to have to work for their sustenance. He wasn’t necessarily commanding them, but rather, letting them know how it was going to be.

If you think that you can coast by without learning how to work hard, you’re going to have a miserable time of it. But what about those who hate their work?

Well, if work was fun, it would be called play.

Having said that, work doesn’t have to be terrible. In fact, I actually really enjoy working. I remember feeling some measure of anxiety over this when I was in high school, knowing that I was soon to be expected to assume the responsibilities of an adult and work full-time.

I couldn’t fathom the pressures of that much work. But I quickly found out, that when I was working, not only did I have more money in my pocket, but I felt a deep sense of satisfaction with the value that I’d created in the world.

One of my all time favorite quotes that I think everyone should have posted on their refrigerator, is by a prophet from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints:

 “Let us realize that the privilege to work is a gift, that power to work is a blessing, that love of work is success.” -President David O. Mckay

I can honestly attest to this philosophy as being one of the major guiding lights in my life, and I believe that if you were to embrace this also, that you would find a lot of success in your life as well.

2. How Much Should I Work?

Having a strong work ethic doesn’t necessarily mean that you work every waking hour, though it can spill into that.

I remember a rich business man being asked how he balanced his work and family. He laughed and said that he didn’t believe in balance.

I tend to disagree with him, but I’ll admit that I too have been called a workaholic by some in my day. Balance is a tricky thing, because I know a very successful business man, who works a hundred hours each week, and considers his life and family life in perfect balance. And for them, it works.

For me, my wife made it clear that she was unhappy whenever I worked more than 50 hours a week. So I cut back my hours to accommodate my family’s needs.

But at home, I don’t consider my job done. I may not be working on my career, but I am working on my family. I want to teach my children, I want to do the chores that my wife would otherwise be left with, and I want to be there for them all.

Just because my day job ends at 5pm, doesn’t mean that I’m spent for the day. My wife is a stay at home mom, and do you think her job ends at 5pm? Not a chance. If she can remain productive, I can too, my responsibilities just change.

And the thing is, I love it. I find a great deal of satisfaction from all work I pursue. It feels so much better than idling my time away. And would you believe it, I still have time for play, for service, and for relaxing.

Having a good work ethic is about showing up, putting your all into whatever you’re doing, and being proud of it. If you’re struggling at finding the joy in working, maybe you’re in a toxic environment, or maybe you need a little tuning of your attitude towards it. I firmly believe that work can be a fulfilling part of your life, because it has been in mine.

And if you’re an artist, knowing how to work well, will increase your value to others who hire you for your artistic skills, and it will help you improve your art, rather than just coasting by on what you’ve already been give a talent for.

Plus, if you’re struggling to get your art sold, you might still need to have other work to get by, and it would sure be nice if you didn’t hate the fact that you had to do this extra work to support your art.

Why would I be asking this? First off, let’s clarify. There are many crowning achievements a man can strive for. For me, personally living a life in service of others, and eventually, being worth to return to my God and have him proud of how I tried to exemplify Christ would be the ultimate end goal for me.

But the question I’m asking is more career based. When someone has worked hard their whole lives, is finding and expressing themselves as artists a goal they should be working towards, or is art a waste of time for most people, and it doesn’t even register on their scale of importance?

For many of us, art is more than something we want to do, in a way, we feel that we have to do it. Even if we never get paid for it, its something we want more freedom to pursue. Whether its painting, crafting, writing, photography, filmmaking, or some other artistic expression; for me at least, these have often felt as if they needed to be earned.

But is that the best way to think about it?

1. Where Is The Value In Art?

We all know about expensive paintings, people who make successful careers as writers and filmmakers. But what about us personally? Does anyone, let alone you, care about yourself as an artist?

I’ve spent the last 10 years of my life, working hard to get to the point, where I could go from a poor college grad to being a full time writer and independent filmmaker, but I recently just watched a movie called Loving Vincent, wherein it gave us a glimpse into the tragic life of Vincent van Goh.

Vincent was a man who struggled with self worth issues, to the point of wanting to harm himself at times. But what really stood out to me, was that for the last years of his life, living off other people’s dimes, he dedicated himself to the pursuit of his paintings.

In that time, he painted some 800ish paintings, and only ever sold a single one of them while alive. He died young, but eventually his paintings have become worth millions. But he never realized any of this success while alive. He painted every day, because he wanted to. 

So which is the better course for a person. If they want to express themselves creatively, should they go for broke and dedicate their life to it like he did, or play it safe, work hard, and eventually have the means to create art comfortably later in life?

I can only speak for myself, but I have always loved the arts. There is no way I would have been content to live my whole life as a poor artist though. For me, I was raised on the Biblical phrase, given to Adam and Even when they were cast out of the Garden of Eden: “By the sweat of thy brow, thou shall eat, all the days of your life.”

Growing up, I developed a strong work ethic. I learned to love that 80 hour work week. Productivity defined my every day. What was art? Definitely not productive. Art was something I enjoyed as a kid, then had to suppress as I became a responsible working adult. Maybe someday, when old and retired, I could pick it back up again, when I’d earned it.

2. Can I Be A Working Artist?

My feelings and beliefs on being a working artist have changed over the years. Would I go back and start out all differently if given the choice?

No, I wouldn’t. But at the same time, I don’t think that being creative should reside only with children and retirees.

The other day I was thinking, and it occurred to me, that when you get a business degree from a school, the first level is called a “B.A.” standing for Bachelor of Arts. Every business out there, requires creativity, and what is creativity, if not art?

Is Apple really creating anything these days that other companies can’t? No, then why are they so successful? Its because they had a creative genius who turned the tech company into an artistic expression so powerful that people identified themselves with it, some even going so far as getting tattoos of their logo. Same thing with Harley Davidson, or other such brands. Creativity is essential when we want to connect our businesses to customers and stand out from the crowd.

So why does telling everyone that you paint, or write or something like that, feel so much less—worthy?

I think it boils down to value. How much value are you creating for others?

Does anyone criticize Steve Jobs for being creative? Probably not seriously.

What about Elon Musk? Yeah he gets criticized all the time, but does anyone think he doesn’t bring value to his companies? He and his creative self are what made his companies what they are.

What about your niece, who can’t hold a steady job, and got fired from the tattoo parlor for putting her own spin on someones tattoo of their dog? She may be creative, but where’s the value being added?

Often when we think of ourselves as artists, we don’t think of the Steve Jobs or Elon Musks of this world, we think of that black sheep in our family with black dyed hair, ghost-white make-up, and green lipstick.

3. When Is It Okay To Be An Artist?

Here’s what I’ve come to decide for myself. Being an artist is something everyone probably is already. Some are hindered by how they view their place in the world. Others are freely expressing themselves, without even realizing it.

In the end, the artist you are, and how you express yourself, is in itself an art form. Some photographers make a career out of finding those people, and capturing a single frame that portrays the life that only that person could have lived.

I find great satisfaction in every day of my life that I consciously choose how I’m going to live my life. Even if nobody ever buys a book I write, or watches a video I produce, I have set up my career as an artist in such a way, that I can enjoy the journey of it, rather than need the financial results of it to find my peace.

That’s the key. Live your life with purpose. That purpose will define you. In that defining of yourself, you will discover the art of a life well lived. 

Ten Year Plan to Becoming a Full-Time Writer and Independent Filmmaker

About twelve years ago in 2013, I started writing my first book. About a year or two into that, and I found myself addicted. I had a promising career path ahead of me in the home construction world, but I’d just found a passion that was quickly eating at my ambition to be a general contractor for the rest of my life.

Don’t get me wrong, I was incredibly grateful for my work as a contractor. I learned so much, had a great time doing it, and it held the promise of bringing in a good stable income. But that annoying artistic bug had sunk it’s tick-like head into my skin, and I couldn’t help but want to make a run at creating stories.

So, unbeknownst to everyone else in my company, mostly family and close co-workers, I decided to put a plan together of how I would one day fulfill my budding dream of becoming a full-time writer, and since film was starting to grow on me, an independent filmmaker as well.

1. How I Wanted To Prepare For a Career in Art

Back in 2015, I wasn’t aware of the movie world being in such distress as it is today. Yes, I knew that it often had its creative slumps that could easily last a decade, but at the time, Blockbuster had just closed its doors, and Netflix was on a spending spree.

However, I was very aware that books were struggling, and that struggle would only get worse. Self-publishing was becoming a big thing, and I’d experienced first hand, how easy it was to publish your own book without a need for all the gate-keepers. Plus, I’d seen how the digital revolution had thrown the music world for a loop over the proceeding years.

All in all, I had a funny feeling that if I wanted to become a self-published writer and independent filmmaker, I might have to plan on some very lean years for the first few years that I started. What I did not want to do, was to make the leap, then find myself crawling back to my construction job as a failure because I ran out of money and could no longer support my family.

For that reason, I decided to take the next 10 years, and prepare myself for the change. I figured this would give me enough time to prepare for what would be a major U-turn in my life. Now I know that some people would be less inclined to take the long approach like this. I consider myself a risk-taking sort, but there’s still a mean conservative streak that courses through my bones.

One of the problems with taking a long-term approach to something like this, is that at the end of 10 years, without proper resolve, you might find yourself exactly were you were when you decided that you wanted to make the change. That’s why setting clear goals and making processes for achieving them became a huge priority in my life. Eventually I even had to tell others of my plan to hold myself accountable.

In the beginning, I had a full time job, paying $45,000 per year. I had a wife and my first kid, with another one planned in the following year. I had also graduated college with a degree in Finance, and got my MBA. Luckily at this time, I had managed to pay off all my debts. That is a story for another day, but I’ll be happy to share that sometime with you also. Just know, it meant a lot of hard work, and eating nothing but eggs and rice for a couple of years.

Anyhow, to the goals, as it’s impossible to measure your progress without them:

1. Goals:

• Keep writing more books, and learn how to write better stories
  • This was important, because it was what I enjoyed doing, and I wanted to be the best I could be. After 10 years, I wanted to be able to have books that people would want to buy.
• Learn Filmmaking
  • Once I caught the bug for turning my stories into movies, I had to take this step. When I was a kid, I always wanted to do something with movies, but never thought it was within my reach. But since I’d just finished my masters degree, was working full time, and raising my family, I didn’t have time to go to film school. Life was in full session. So I decided to create my own curriculum, which included:
    • Reading everything I could on how to make movies
    • Consuming everything YouTube had to offer on making movies
    • Breakdown/study the movies I liked the most
    • Study behind the scenes videos
    • Make some short films
    • Take acting classes
    • Start collecting the gear I would need
• Learn the business side of Filmmaking
  • I already owned one small construction company, and was working for my families larger construction company, but I knew there were still things I didn’t know that I didn’t know yet, when it came to running a successful company.
• Save and invest enough money to support my family and my career, assuming that the new career would make little to no money for the first few years.
  • This is one of the hardest parts of this plan. I had the financial understanding of how money works along with the self control to stick to a financial plan, but life can come at you fast, and so I had to be prepared as best I could, and I had to better my circumstances, as I was only making $45k a year. One thing that also helped, was that my wife is a very frugal person. She never needed the latest and greatest of everything, and she loves shopping for our needs at the second-hand store. Even though she was/is nervous about my goal to become an artist, she has supported my vision from day one. I don’t think I could do this without her.

2. How to Prepare Financially

Learning how to write better, and to make movies was never going to be the hardest part for me. I still needed goals there, I knew how to push myself, and I was having too much fun learning about it all to slacken my resolve there. What I needed to focus on most, was my finances.

Now, I did get my degree in finance, as I mentioned. I also had my MBA, but that didn’t mean that I could easily apply all those skills yet. Luckily, in my family’s larger construction company, I was currently on a career path that would lead me into the upper management of the company over the coming years.

This is originally why I joined the company, because when I got my finance degree, I was actually pursuing a goal to work on Wall Street. However, when my dad asked me to join the family business, I decided that learning some valuable business skill by doing them, would be immeasurably valuable. I was right. But he started me at the bottom, and had me work my way up. I became very handy, learned about quality control, customer relations, employee relations, bidding, bookkeeping, marketing, accounting, and financing. Those were good skills that over the course of my ten year plan, I would have needed to learn anyways.

What I couldn’t learn at work, was some of the investing/financing that I felt I’d need to really secure my future. I didn’t want to pay a financial planner for something that I had gone to school to learn, and so I started slowly dabbling and learning how to invest each year.

Stocks were always going to be a part of my plan, so I reserved a little money to work on that. My biggest investment though, was in my family’s company. Every nickel I could spare, I re-invested back into that company, effectively becoming a real-estate investor.

At first, it seemed like my investments were so small and pointless. But each year, they got bigger. As I earned more money from the company, and was able to pour it back into the business, I think around year five, my investment hit the 7 figure mark.

They always say, that 1^st million is the hardest. Boy, I felt that. I remember back in my early twenties, my goal was to have $1,000,000 by the time I hit 30 years old. I worked hard at that too, but it took me till I was about 35 years old. Looking back, I have to say, not bad. It came from making a lot of good choices, working hard, saving, investing, and frankly, a little bit of luck. Though I tried my best to live by the philosophy that we have a huge influence on our own luck.

If I didn’t have access to the family business also, I think I would have still found a way to reach that milestone in my life. Though it might have been on Wall Street, or it might have been in creating a startup. I was very ambitious then, and I was very goal oriented, as you may have noticed by now.

Granted, I know others have made lots more than me by that point in their lives, but there’s always going to be a bigger fish out there who made it happen bigger and faster than me or you. Good for them! Maybe good for you…

If that first million seems completely out of reach for you, then I would suggest finding a mentor, someone who is making good money. Learn from them. The only reason someone can’t thrive, especially in America, is because they are trapped in a culture that prevents it. I’ll have to do a posting on just culture one of these days, because I firmly believe that anyone can find success, but not everyone will believe that this success mindset applies to them personally.

Before I digress, lets finish this out. At five years into my plan, and one million worth of investments, I still had a long way to go. But you have a million bucks? Why not start now?

Because a million bucks isn’t what it used to be, and making movies is expensive. Raising a family is expensive, too. Some people might be willing to dive off that cliff, but I needed a better safety net. I needed to get to the point, where my investments paid me to run a losing venture. How do I mean?

Its like this: If you have 1,000,000, the most you’ll likely get as a return on it if investing is close to $100,000 per year, assuming you’re getting a 10% return on your investment. After taxes, you’re probably closer to $70,000. In truth, that’s not nearly enough to get by on with this plan, so you’d really end up spending the money you’d want to use as an investment. If I only had $1m to start with, I knew I’d run out of money in 2-3 years, because you will not only have your family expenses of living, which when you consider inflation, keep going up. Then you have the costs of running a business, which include your payroll, payroll taxes, marketing, office overhead, tools of the trade, and the expenses of actually producing movies, which hit hard and fast.

I did the math, and realized I wanted a lot more. Everyone is different, and your goals might be different from mine. You might be more comfortable asking others for money to invest in your film projects, and you can eventually bootstrap your business that way. In that case, that first million might be just fine as an investment seed, but you’ll be strapped.

For myself, my goal was to have enough investments, that I could start a studio business that didn’t have to make money to break even. For me, that meant actually owning a studio, and to pay for it by having other commercial buildings that I could rent out, then using that rental income to pay for my studio building.

That meant that around year 8, I needed to buy some property, and start developing it for these rentals and my studio. The money was very tight, but I was able to pick up 4 acres of commercial property at that time. I couldn’t afford to develop it yet, but getting the permitting and plans through the city would take another year at least, time enough to keep working on my finances to that when I did get my approvals, I could afford to built it.

If you recall, I also mentioned that stocks would be a large part of my investing strategy. At year eight, I was still struggling to get any kind of return on my stock investments, however, I knew that it could be done. Since I planned on my commercial properties paying for my studio building, I was depending on my stock investing to pay for my living wages.

So for the next two years, I spent hours each day, studying the stocks, bonds, and futures markets. I bought courses from trading gurus, I tried trading real and fake money, using every bit of advise I was learning, trying desperately to figure out what would work for me.

It took until the end of year 10 in my ten year plan when everything seemed to finally click on my stock trading. Year 10 was my very first profitable year in the stock markets, using a strategy that fit my schedule and style. It was a lot of hard work, but I finally got that piece of the puzzle figured out.

That brings me to now, the end of my 10 year plan. You’re all caught up on how I got to the point where I’ve started stepping back from my family construction business, and leaning full time into my writing and filmmaking career.

I still give the construction company a couple days each week, since I still have investments tied up in there, and I want to make sure that they can make a smooth transition from needing me there all the time. Also, I’ve been held up on permitting for my commercial property, so I don’t have a new office to move into just yet. Plus between surgeries and moving into a new house this year, year 11 has been more of a limbo/transitional period.

But its given me a soft exit and entrance into this new venture.

There you have it folks. This is how I’ve decided to follow my dream. I get that its not for everyone, and it takes a lot of dedication, and hard work. For some of you, you might be in a position where you can jump right in at the ground floor of some production studio, eventually working your way up, or finding a niche that you like within the ranks. For me, I wanted full ownership, full control, and freedom to pursue the kind of projects that interest me. This meant sacrificing ten years and using that time to the very best of my ability, pushing myself to meet every goal I made early on and as my plan evolved.

Well, I’ve laid myself pretty bare for you here, but this is all just a 1000 ft view of my journey thus far. If you’re like I was ten years ago, wondering how you can go from being a broke college grad, or maybe you haven’t even gone to college yet, but are wondering how you could possibly turn an artistic life into your mainstay, then stick around. Subscribe to my blog and my YouTube Channel. I am so grateful for the life I’ve lived thus far, and the things I’ve learned along the way. And while I may not have any great tutorials or workshops to share, I do plan to share as much of my journey as possible, so that if you can find any way of gleaning something from my experience and lessons learned, then maybe you too can find the success you need as a creative.

Often when it comes to plotting your stories, you hear people talking about the beats of the story. For me this was incredibly confusing. I’d google story beats, and get no clear answers.

Yet, everyone seemed to know what they were and how to use them. Was I just so stupid that I couldn’t grasp what was so obvious to others? Was this some industry secret?

If you’re in the same boat I was, let me tell you, this is a topic that we could go very deep into, but I’ll do my best to keep it clear and concise.

The Music of Plotting

When you think of beats, your mind might conjure up that term in a musical sense. But for the written word, there is no music. Stories do however have a sort of rhythm to them—a flow that if done well can make them have power. This power lies within the beats of a story.

In my previous article, we talked about structure. Structure and beats work together, but are not the same thing. In a song, the music is contained within a structure of chorus and verse. In a novel or screenplay, the structure is contained within acts. The beat is what carries you through the different parts of those acts, and they vary depending on the genre. In music, you have a different sort of beat for jazz, rock, basa, waltz, etc. Stories are the same, you have different beats for the various genres of horror, romance, detective, fantasy, etc.

Knowing these beats will help you craft a story that has the best punch. You have to be careful though. If followed perfectly, the beats can lead your story to being too predictable, tropie, or cliche. The idea is to learn the beats, then find subtle ways of twisting them to give the audience a story they can understand, relate with, and still be surprised by.

When I’m plotting out a story, I’ll often write down all the beats that I want to hit, and arrange them in order of where they should occur within my story structure. Then when I’m done writing my book, I can review those beats, compare it to my rough draft, and see how well I crafted my story around them. Sometimes, I find that I veered off the path, and need to modify my story. Other times, I adjust the beats and see if they still work.

Often you can combine beats to tell a more engaging story. In fact, I think that often times, if you aren’t doing this, your story will be lost within the slush pile of other genre stories that failed to add a little more flare to their stories as well.

What are the Beats for the Various Genres?

I can’t tell you all of them, but I can help you figure out how to find them. Lets start by breaking down a story that many of us might have seen. Keep in mind, that a popular and successful story, probably got the beats right, in order for it to have become so popular. You’ll also find that as you study one successful story, you’ll see how another successful one in that same genre matched those same beats pretty closely. You’ll also start to see how stories that combined multiple genres were able to blend the various beats for a more dynamic tale.

I could have chosen a bunch of films, but I wanted to try my hand at a genre I don’t delve into much, so that you can see how I would find the beats and maybe we can learn a little together. If you haven’t seen this, I suggest you watch it before it give it all away. Lets do the romcom: While You Were Sleeping.

While You Were Sleeping

Preface: This is a romantic comedy genre film. The beats within this story can be found in most successful romance comedies, at least that’s going to be our assumption. There will be spoilers here. (FYI, I don’t write much romance, so I’m breaking this down the best I can. It would probably do me good to break down more, and make sure my beats all matched, so I might miss something. If you think of something I missed, let me know on my Youtube comments page.

• Meet the main character and discover what they need.
  • For this, Lucy (Sandra Bullock) is clerk at the metro, and is secretly in love with Peter (Peter Gallagher) he is not her need, her need is what we learn about her through the opening scenes: In this case, she is all alone and needs a family.
• The main character enters into some kind of deception. In this case, she makes everyone believe that she’s engaged to him.
• Main character is placed in a situation that she actually meets her true lover. In this case, this it will be Peter’s brother, Jack (Bill Pullman).
• The main character becomes entrenched in the lover’s world.
• We learn of the lover’s need. Jack needs to find independence from his fathers business and become his own man.
• The main character and lover hate each other. In this case, its because jack isn’t buying into her scam.
• The main character and lover fall in love. In this case, he now falls for her scam.
• An opponent gets in the way. For Lucy, this is her neighbor, a greasy low brow dude, who Lucy really just tolerates, but who Jack feels threatened by.
• The main Character and lover need to have some scenes together, where their relationship strengthens.
• Another opponent arises. In this case, it’s Peter, waking from his coma. He’s different from the 1^st opponent, and harder to ignore. They both agree to marry each other.
• The main character give up the scam at the last possible moment and the true lover, Jack overcomes his weakness too. They come together to live happily ever after.

I may have missed some beats, but if you compare this to other romcoms, you’ll find similarities between the beats. This one twisted one of the beats near the beginning. Rather than meeting Jack first, she seems to have met Peter first, making you think early on that he really could be her lover. But in reality, she never met him until after he awoke from the coma, bringing the true beats back into harmony. See how that beat was manipulated and made the story unique, rather than tropish?

Next, find another romcom that you can pick apart and see if it has the same beats within it. Maybe it does, maybe you discover another beat, or you are able to see how they moved or twisted one of the beats to make it a little different.

I would recommend taking a few stories in this genre and dissecting them all before settling on your definitive list of winning beats for this genre. I think I’ll take the beats I got from that, and compare it with another movie that I watched some time ago, and which was filmed decades apart: Some Like It Hot. Already from what I remember, there is a relationship built on deception, there is conflict, and the gig isn’t up until the near end. I’ll have to re-watch it though to remember all of it, but I think you can see where I’m going with this.

Whatever genre you prefer to focus on, sit down, watch some movies in that genre, or read several books in that genre. See what they all appear to have in common, then apply that to your story, and see if it doesn’t make yours better.

Find ways to manipulate the beats and combine them with other genres. Have fun with this.

I’ve just barely skimmed the surface of story beats with you. If you want to learn more, and I recommend you do, then check out my favorite source for learning and understanding story beats: John Truby. He has several books and classes on understanding and incorporating genre beats into your story. Visit him at https://truby.com/

FYI, I don’t get paid anything to endorse him, I have just found his insights to be incredibly helpful.

Also, check out my YouTube video on this subject at https://youtu.be/lw2ep0xxaIM 

As with most of my YouTube videos, I try to throw in some fun skits as well.

Whether you’re writing a poem, short story, book, church talk, school lesson, song, or screenplay, crafting your story is an art that if you master, will elevate your story to incredible heights.

It’ll make your corporate meetings more engaging, you’ll sell more product, you’ll inspire more students, and your children will want to spend more time with you, listening to you.

Humans are the only thing out there who depend on story for learning how to survive in this world. Why else is it, that art speaks to us on such a deep level? The most published book in the history of the word, the bible is a construction of mostly stories, rather than a list of simple instructions.

There are very few instances where learning to craft stories will not improve your life and that of those around you. So whatever your chosen path, you can benefit from expanding your knowledge of this craft.

Why Should You Study Story?

Many of us learn this skill at some level as we grow up. When we meet up with family or friends, we tell stories, mostly true. What happened over the weekend; What I did on vacation; You won’t believe who my sister is dating now; Etc, etc.

Some of us, learn to tell stories more fluently and engaging than others. You’ve met these people before. They command the attention of the whole room. They often get their way, and not because they’re more popular or more deceptive, but because they’ve learned to tell stories that make you buy into their perspective.

So how can you learn to engage an audience with that sort of ability and fluency?

If you’re unlucky enough to not be naturally charismatic, which lets admit, a lot of us aren’t, then don’t despair. Like any skill, you can work on this. I’m a firm believer that some of us are gifted with talents, and others have to work at developing them. 

Back when I was in school, all growing up, I met lots of people. I was never the popular one, but I couldn’t help but notice the popular people and wonder what it was that made them special.

I found two types of popular people. The first were those who looked great and knew it. They had confidence, which is a topic for another day, but is equally important. This group of people were able to leverage their genetics to win adoration from so many.

Then there were the others, still popular, but with serious attractive deficiencies. Either they were too fat, too ugly, too pimpled, and so on. They found their popularity and confidence, not by looking hot and handsome, but rather by developing their personality.

Ask yourself this question: Would you rather surround yourself by beautiful people who were utterly boring, or people who weren’t attractive, but super engaging to be around, who would you pick?

Granted, this is an oversimplification, because it doesn’t universally apply, though during my younger years, it seemed statistically consistent. So the idea is, that anyone can find success, in this case we’re talking popularity, but in life we’re talking about much more.

As a writer and filmmaker, I don’t want to fall into the trap of learning how to compose amazing videos, that have lack-luster stories. I love watching movies, but it seems that lately, we’re in a creative slump as Americans.

The big studios are churning out amazing eye candy, expensive as can be, but not really that engaging or memorable. Hollywood goes through these creative slumps occasionally. Movies cost so much to make, and so they try to play it safe, but in doing so, they forget to tell the sort of stories we want to pay $20 per ticket to see in the theater.

I’ve seen super low budget movies that blew my socks off. They weren’t filmed with the finesse that a bigger budget movie receives, but they were so much more entertaining, proving you don’t need big budgets to make quality art.

Then again, I’ve also seen low budget crap. You’ll find stuff all over the spectrum. The difference between a fantastic film and a flop, regardless of the budget, is the quality of the story itself, that part of the craft that happens before anyone even thinks about what camera or actor to use.

How Study Story

Do you have an uncle to tells amazing stories. Listen to how he tells them.

Who was/is your favorite teacher? Think of how they engaged you.

What are your favorite movies? Turn the volume off, and pull out a pen and pad. Take notes about how they told the story. See if there are any similarities between and across multiple films you loved.

What books do you love? What is it about their storytelling style that gets you hooked?

Whatever you like, you can find a way to break it down into manageable chunks, then start really finding and practicing on your own, the theoretical techniques you’re finding.

If you feel stumped on this, Let me recommend a few books that I found very helpful when I was trying to study story:

The Writers Journey, by Christopher Vogler

Save The Cat, by Blake Snyder

The Anatomy of Story, by John Truby

There are so many books that talk about structuring your story, but another place that I found incredibly helpful was the Timpanogos Storytelling Festival, held each year in Utah. There are other such festivals out there, and these are for in person, oral storytelling.

Wanna know who I found most of their patrons to be? School Teachers. These dedicated teachers were attending the conferences held by these storytelling festivals to improve their abilities to connect with their children. Amazing! I love it when I come across people with such dedication to their craft, that they use their free time to learn how to be better at what they do.

How can storytelling help you, in your career or family?

As a writer and filmmaker, its clear to me. But I also have a romantic idea that as a father figure in my house, I should be able to sit my kids down in front of the hearth and tell stories from my childhood that bring our family together.

Example of the Power of Amazing Storytelling Skills

Before you leave, check out this amazing story. I’ll show two versions of it. One comes straight from the Bible, so its a good story, and many of us have heard it all growing up.

Then I’m going to show you the same story, told by an expert storyteller, and you can ask yourself what each means to you. Does one resonate with you differently? Does one capture your attention more and make you think? Why?

When you’re done reading this, check out my latest book, One For The Money, Two For The Soul. You can also check out my YouTube channel, where I share my personal storytelling journey. I’d love to hear your thoughts on the Jonah story on my YouTube comments where we discuss this topic at: 

Book of Jonah, King James Version of the Bible:

Now the word of the LORD came unto Jonah the son of Amittai, saying, Arise, go to Nineveh, that great city, and cry against it; for their wickedness is come up before me.

But Jonah rose up to flee unto Tarshish from the presence of the LORD, and went down to Joppa; and he found a ship going to Tarshish: so he paid the fare thereof, and went down into it, to go with them unto Tarshish from the presence of the LORD.

But the LORD sent out a great wind into the sea, and there was a mighty tempest in the sea, so that the ship was like to be broken.

Then the mariners were afraid, and cried every man unto his god, and cast forth the wares that were in the ship into the sea, to lighten it of them. But Jonah was gone down into the sides of the ship; and he lay, and was fast asleep. So the shipmaster came to him, and said unto him, What meanest thou, O sleeper? arise, call upon thy God, if so be that God will think upon us, that we perish not. And they said every one to his fellow, Come, and let us cast lots, that we may know for whose cause this evil is upon us. So they cast lots, and the lot fell upon Jonah.

Then said they unto him, Tell us, we pray thee, for whose cause this evil is upon us; What is thine occupation? and whence comest thou? what is thy country? and of what people art thou?

And he said unto them, I am an Hebrew; and I fear the LORD, the God of heaven, which hath made the sea and the dry land.

Then were the men exceedingly afraid, and said unto him, Why hast thou done this? For the men knew that he fled from the presence of the LORD, because he had told them. Then said they unto him, What shall we do unto thee, that the sea may be calm unto us? for the sea wrought, and was tempestuous.

And he said unto them, Take me up, and cast me forth into the sea; so shall the sea be calm unto you: for I know that for my sake this great tempest is upon you.

Nevertheless the men rowed hard to bring it to the land; but they could not: for the sea wrought, and was tempestuous against them.Wherefore they cried unto the LORD, and said, We beseech thee, O LORD, we beseech thee, let us not perish for this man’s life, and lay not upon us innocent blood: for thou, O LORD, hast done as it pleased thee.

So they took up Jonah, and cast him forth into the sea: and the sea ceased from her raging. Then the men feared the LORD exceedingly, and offered a sacrifice unto the LORD, and made vows.

Now the LORD had prepared a great fish to swallow up Jonah. And Jonah was in the belly of the fish three days and three nights.

Then Jonah prayed unto the LORD his God out of the fish’s belly, And said, I cried by reason of mine affliction unto the LORD, and he heard me; out of the belly of hell cried I, and thou heardest my voice. For thou hadst cast me into the deep, in the midst of the seas; and the floods compassed me about: all thy billows and thy waves passed over me. Then I said, I am cast out of thy sight; yet I will look again toward thy holy temple.

The waters compassed me about, even to the soul: the depth closed me round about, the weeds were wrapped about my head. I went down to the bottoms of the mountains; the earth with her bars was about me for ever: yet hast thou brought up my life from corruption, O LORD my God. When my soul fainted within me I remembered the LORD: and my prayer came in unto thee, into thine holy temple. They that observe lying vanities forsake their own mercy. But I will sacrifice unto thee with the voice of thanksgiving; I will pay that that I have vowed. Salvation is of the LORD.

And the LORD spake unto the fish, and it vomited out Jonah upon the dry land.

And the word of the LORD came unto Jonah the second time, saying, Arise, go unto Nineveh, that great city, and preach unto it the preaching that I bid thee.

The Sermon (Extracted from Moby Dick), by Herman Melville:

Father Mapple rose, and in a mild voice of unassuming authority ordered the scattered people to condense. “Star board gangway, there! side away to larboard- larboard gangway to starboard! Midships! midships!”

There was a low rumbling of heavy sea-boots among the benches, and a still slighter shuffling of women’s shoes, and all was quiet again, and every eye on the preacher.

He paused a little; then kneeling in the pulpit’s bows, folded his large brown hands across his chest, uplifted his closed eyes, and offered a prayer so deeply devout that he seemed kneeling and praying at the bottom of the sea.

This ended, in prolonged solemn tones, like the continual tolling of a bell in a ship that is foundering at sea in a fog- in such tones he commenced reading the following hymn; but changing his manner towards the concluding stanzas, burst forth with a pealing exultation and joy-

The ribs and terrors in the whale, Arched over me a dismal gloom, While all God’s sun-lit waves rolled by, And lift me deepening down to doom.

I saw the opening maw of hell, With endless pains and sorrows there; Which none but they that feel can tell- Oh, I was plunging to despair.

In black distress, I called my God, When I could scarce believe him mine, He bowed his ear to my complaints- No more the whale did me confine.

With speed he flew to my relief, As on a radiant dolphin borne; Awful, yet bright, as lightning shone The face of my Deliverer God.

My song for ever shall record That terrible, that joyful hour; I give the glory to my God, His all the mercy and the power.

Nearly all joined in singing this hymn, which swelled high above the howling of the storm. A brief pause ensued; the preacher slowly turned over the leaves of the Bible, and at last, folding his hand down upon the proper page, said: “Beloved shipmates, clinch the last verse of the first chapter of Jonah- ‘And God had prepared a great fish to swallow up Jonah.’”

“Shipmates, this book, containing only four chapters- four yarns- is one of the smallest strands in the mighty cable of the Scriptures. Yet what depths of the soul Jonah’s deep sealine sound! what a pregnant lesson to us is this prophet! What a noble thing is that canticle in the fish’s belly! How billow-like and boisterously grand! We feel the floods surging over us, we sound with him to the kelpy bottom of the waters; sea-weed and all the slime of the sea is about us! But what is this lesson that the book of Jonah teaches? Shipmates, it is a two-stranded lesson; a lesson to us all as sinful men, and a lesson to me as a pilot of the living God. As sinful men, it is a lesson to us all, because it is a story of the sin, hard-heartedness, suddenly awakened fears, the swift punishment, repentance, prayers, and finally the deliverance and joy of Jonah. As with all sinners among men, the sin of this son of Amittai was in his wilful disobedience of the command of God- never mind now what that command was, or how conveyed- which he found a hard command. But all the things that God would have us do are hard for us to do- remember that- and hence, he oftener commands us than endeavors to persuade. And if we obey God, we must disobey ourselves; and it is in this disobeying ourselves, wherein the hardness of obeying God consists.

“With this sin of disobedience in him, Jonah still further flouts at God, by seeking to flee from Him. He thinks that a ship made by men, will carry him into countries where God does not reign but only the Captains of this earth. He skulks about the wharves of Joppa, and seeks a ship that’s bound for Tarshish. There lurks, perhaps, a hitherto unheeded meaning here. By all accounts Tarshish could have been no other city than the modern Cadiz. That’s the opinion of learned men. And where is Cadiz, shipmates? Cadiz is in Spain; as far by water, from Joppa, as Jonah could possibly have sailed in those ancient days, when the Atlantic was an almost unknown sea. Because Joppa, the modern Jaffa, shipmates, is on the most easterly coast of the Mediterranean, the Syrian; and Tarshish or Cadiz more than two thousand miles to the westward from that, just outside the Straits of Gibraltar. See ye not then, shipmates, that Jonah sought to flee worldwide from God? Miserable man! Oh! most contemptible and worthy of all scorn; with slouched hat and guilty eye, skulking from his God; prowling among the shipping like a vile burglar hastening to cross the seas. So disordered, self-condemning in his look, that had there been policemen in those days, Jonah, on the mere suspicion of something wrong, had been arrested ere he touched a deck. How plainly he’s a fugitive! no baggage, not a hat-box, valise, or carpet-bag,- no friends accompany him to the wharf with their adieux. At last, after much dodging search, he finds the Tarshish ship receiving the last items of her cargo; and as he steps on board to see its Captain in the cabin, all the sailors for the moment desist from hoisting in the goods, to mark the stranger’s evil eye. Jonah sees this; but in vain he tries to look all ease and confidence; in vain essays his wretched smile. Strong intuitions of the man assure the mariners he can be no innocent. In their gamesome but still serious way, one whispers to the other- “Jack, he’s robbed a widow;” or, “Joe, do you mark him; he’s a bigamist;” or, “Harry lad, I guess he’s the adulterer that broke jail in old Gomorrah, or belike, one of the missing murderers from Sodom.” Another runs to read the bill that’s stuck against the spile upon the wharf to which the ship is moored, offering five hundred gold coins for the apprenhension of a parricide, and containing a description of his person. He reads, and looks from Jonah to the bill; while all his sympathetic shipmates now crowd round Jonah, prepared to lay their hands upon him. Frightened Jonah trembles. and summoning all his boldness to his face, only looks so much the more a coward. He will not confess himself suspected; but that itself is strong suspicion. So he makes the best of it; and when the sailors find him not to be the man that is advertised, they let him pass, and he descends into the cabin.

”’Who’s there?’ cries the Captain at his busy desk, hurriedly making out his papers for the Customs- ‘Who’s there?’ Oh! how that harmless question mangles Jonah! For the instant he almost turns to flee again. But he rallies. ‘I seek a passage in this ship to Tarshish; how soon sail ye, sir?’ Thus far the busy Captain had not looked up to Jonah, though the man now stands before him; but no sooner does he hear that hollow voice, than he darts a scrutinizing glance. ‘We sail with the next coming tide,’ at last he slowly answered, still intently eyeing him. ‘No sooner, sir?’- ‘Soon enough for any honest man that goes a passenger.’ Ha! Jonah, that’s another stab. But he swiftly calls away the Captain from that scent. ‘I’ll sail with ye,’- he says,- ‘the passage money how much is that?- I’ll pay now.’ For it is particularly written, shipmates, as if it were a thing not to be overlooked in this history, ‘that he paid the fare thereof’ ere the craft did sail. And taken with the context, this is full of meaning.

“Now Jonah’s Captain, shipmates, was one whose discernment detects crime in any, but whose cupidity exposes it only in the penniless. In this world, shipmates, sin that pays its way can travel freely and without a passport; whereas Virtue, if a pauper, is stopped at all frontiers. So Jonah’s Captain prepares to test the length of Jonah’s purse, ere he judge him openly. He charges him thrice the usual sum; and it’s assented to. Then the Captain knows that Jonah is a fugitive; but at the same time resolves to help a flight that paves its rear with gold. Yet when Jonah fairly takes out his purse, prudent suspicions still molest the Captain. He rings every coin to find a counterfeit. Not a forger, any way, he mutters; and Jonah is put down for his passage. ‘Point out my state-room, Sir,’ says Jonah now, ‘I’m travel-weary; I need sleep.’ ‘Thou lookest like it,’ says the Captain, ‘there’s thy room.’ Jonah enters, and would lock the door, but the lock contains no key. Hearing him foolishly fumbling there, the Captain laughs lowly to himself, and mutters something about the doors of convicts’ cells being never allowed to be locked within. All dressed and dusty as he is, Jonah throws himself into his berth, and finds the little state-room ceiling almost resting on his forehead. The air is close, and Jonah gasps. Then, in that contracted hole, sunk, too, beneath the ship’s water-line, Jonah feels the heralding presentiment of that stifling hour, when the whale shall hold him in the smallest of his bowels’ wards.

“Screwed at its axis against the side, a swinging lamp slightly oscillates in Jonah’s room; and the ship, heeling over towards the wharf with the weight of the last bales received, the lamp, flame and all, though in slight motion, still maintains a permanent obliquity with reference to the room; though, in truth, infallibly straight itself, it but made obvious the false, lying levels among which it hung. The lamp alarms and frightens Jonah; as lying in his berth his tormented eyes roll round the place, and this thus far successful fugitive finds no refuge for his restless glance. But that contradiction in the lamp more and more appals him. The floor, the ceiling, and the side, are all awry. ‘Oh! so my conscience hangs in me!’ he groans, ‘straight upwards, so it burns; but the chambers of my soul are all in crookedness!’

“Like one who after a night of drunken revelry hies to his bed, still reeling, but with conscience yet pricking him, as the plungings of the Roman race-horse but so much the more strike his steel tags into him; as one who in that miserable plight still turns and turns in giddy anguish, praying God for annihilation until the fit be passed; and at last amid the whirl of woe he feels, a deep stupor steals over him, as over the man who bleeds to death, for conscience is the wound, and there’s naught to staunch it; so, after sore wrestling in his berth, Jonah’s prodigy of ponderous misery drags him drowning down to sleep.

“And now the time of tide has come; the ship casts off her cables; and from the deserted wharf the uncheered ship for Tarshish, all careening, glides to sea. That ship, my friends, was the first of recorded smugglers! the contraband was Jonah. But the sea rebels; he will not bare the wicked burden. A dreadful storm comes on, the ship is like to break. But now when the boatswain calls all hands to lighten her; when boxes, bales, and jars are clattering overboard; when the wind is shrieking, and the men are yelling, and every plank thunders with trampling feet right over Jonah’s head; in all this raging tumult, Jonah sleeps his hideous sleep. He sees no black sky and raging sea, feels not the reeling timbers, and little hears he or heeds he the far rush of the mighty whale, which even now with open mouth is cleaving the seas after him. Aye, shipmates, Jonah was gone down into the sides of the ship- a berth in the cabin as I have taken it, and was fast asleep. But the frightened master comes to him, and shrieks in his dead ear, ‘What meanest thou, O, sleeper! arise!’ Startled from his lethargy by that direful cry, Jonah staggers to his feet, and stumbling to the deck, grasps a shroud, to look out upon the sea. But at that moment he is sprung upon by a panther billow leaping over the bulwarks. Wave after wave thus leaps into the ship, and finding no speedy vent runs roaring fore and aft, till the mariners come nigh to drowning while yet afloat. And ever, as the white moon shows her affrighted face from the steep gullies in the blackness overhead, aghast Jonah sees the rearing bowsprit pointing high upward, but soon beat downward again towards the tormented deep.

“Terrors upon terrors run shouting through his soul. In all his cringing attitudes, the God-fugitive is now too plainly known. The sailors mark him; more and more certain grow their suspicions of him, and at last, fully to test the truth, by referring the whole matter to high Heaven, they all-outward to casting lots, to see for whose cause this great tempest was upon them. The lot is Jonah’s; that discovered, then how furiously they mob him with their questions. ‘What is thine occupation? Whence comest thou? Thy country? What people? But mark now, my shipmates, the behavior of poor Jonah. The eager mariners but ask him who he is, and where from; whereas, they not only receive an answer to those questions, but likewise another answer to a question not put by them, but the unsolicited answer is forced from Jonah by the hard hand of God that is upon him.

”’I am a Hebrew,’ he cries- and then- ‘I fear the Lord the God of Heaven who hath made the sea and the dry land!’ Fear him, O Jonah? Aye, well mightest thou fear the Lord God then! Straightway, he now goes on to make a full confession; whereupon the mariners became more and more appalled, but still are pitiful. For when Jonah, not yet supplicating God for mercy, since he but too well knew the darkness of his deserts,- when wretched Jonah cries out to them to take him and cast him forth into the sea, for he knew that for his sake this great tempest was upon them; they mercifully turn from him, and seek by other means to save the ship. But all in vain; the indignant gale howls louder; then, with one hand raised invokingly to God, with the other they not unreluctantly lay hold of Jonah.

“And now behold Jonah taken up as an anchor and dropped into the sea; when instantly an oily calmness floats out from the east, and the sea is as Jonah carries down the gale with him, leaving smooth water behind. He goes down in the whirling heart of such a masterless commotion that he scarce heeds the moment when he drops seething into the yawning jaws awaiting him; and the whale shoots-to all his ivory teeth, like so many white bolts, upon his prison. Then Jonah prayed unto the Lord out of the fish’s belly. But observe his prayer, and learn a weighty lesson. For sinful as he is, Jonah does not weep and wail for direct deliverance. He feels that his dreadful punishment is just. He leaves all his deliverance to God, contenting himself with this, that spite of all his pains and pangs, he will still look towards His holy temple. And here, shipmates, is true and faithful repentance; not clamorous for pardon, but grateful for punishment. And how pleasing to God was this conduct in Jonah, is shown in the eventual deliverance of him from the sea and the whale. Shipmates, I do not place Jonah before you to be copied for his sin but I do place him before you as a model for repentance. Sin not; but if you do, take heed to repent of it like Jonah.”

While he was speaking these words, the howling of the shrieking, slanting storm without seemed to add new power to the preacher, who, when describing Jonah’s sea-storm, seemed tossed by a storm himself. His deep chest heaved as with a ground-swell; his tossed arms seemed the warring elements at work; and the thunders that rolled away from off his swarthy brow, and the light leaping from his eye, made all his simple hearers look on him with a quick fear that was strange to them.

There now came a lull in his look, as he silently turned over the leaves of the Book once more; and, at last, standing motionless, with closed eyes, for the moment, seemed communing with God and himself.

But again he leaned over towards the people, and bowing his head lowly, with an aspect of the deepest yet manliest humility, he spake these words:

“Shipmates, God has laid but one hand upon you; both his hands press upon me. I have read ye by what murky light may be mine the lesson that Jonah teaches to all sinners; and therefore to ye, and still more to me, for I am a greater sinner than ye. And now how gladly would I come down from this mast-head and sit on the hatches there where you sit, and listen as you listen, while some one of you reads me that other and more awful lesson which Jonah teaches to me, as a pilot of the living God. How being an anointed pilot-prophet, or speaker of true things and bidden by the Lord to sound those unwelcome truths in the ears of a wicked Nineveh, Jonah, appalled at the hostility he should raise, fled from his mission, and sought to escape his duty and his God by taking ship at Joppa. But God is everywhere; Tarshish he never reached. As we have seen, God came upon him in the whale, and swallowed him down to living gulfs of doom, and with swift slantings tore him along ‘into the midst of the seas,’ where the eddying depths sucked him ten thousand fathoms down, and ‘the weeds were wrapped about his head,’ and all the watery world of woe bowled over him. Yet even then beyond the reach of any plummet- ‘out of the belly of hell’- when the whale grounded upon the ocean’s utmost bones, even then, God heard the engulphed, repenting prophet when he cried. Then God spake unto the fish; and from the shuddering cold and blackness of the sea, the whale came breeching up towards the warm and pleasant sun, and all the delights of air and earth; and ‘vomited out Jonah upon the dry land;’ when the word of the Lord came a second time; and Jonah, bruised and beaten- his ears, like two sea-shells, still multitudinously murmuring of the ocean- Jonah did the Almighty’s bidding. And what was that, shipmates? To preach the Truth to the face of Falsehood! That was it!

“This, shipmates, this is that other lesson; and woe to that pilot of the living God who slights it. Woe to him whom this world charms from Gospel duty! Woe to him who seeks to pour oil upon the waters when God has brewed them into a gale! Woe to him who seeks to please rather than to appal! Woe to him whose good name is more to him than goodness! Woe to him who, in this world, courts not dishonor! Woe to him who would not be true, even though to be false were salvation! Yea, woe to him who as the great Pilot Paul has it, while preaching to others is himself a castaway!

He drooped and fell away from himself for a moment; then lifting his face to them again, showed a deep joy in his eyes, as he cried out with a heavenly enthusiasm,- “But oh! shipmates! on the starboard hand of every woe, there is a sure delight; and higher the top of that delight, than the bottom of the woe is deep. Is not the main-truck higher than the kelson is low? Delight is to him- a far, far upward, and inward delight- who against the proud gods and commodores of this earth, ever stands forth his own inexorable self. Delight is to him whose strong arms yet support him, when the ship of this base treacherous world has gone down beneath him. Delight is to him, who gives no quarter in the truth, and kills, burns, and destroys all sin though he pluck it out from under the robes of Senators and Judges. Delight,- top-gallant delight is to him, who acknowledges no law or lord, but the Lord his God, and is only a patriot to heaven. Delight is to him, whom all the waves of the billows of the seas of the boisterous mob can never shake from this sure Keel of the Ages. And eternal delight and deliciousness will be his, who coming to lay him down, can say with his final breath- O Father!- chiefly known to me by Thy rod- mortal or immortal, here I die. I have striven to be Thine, more than to be this world’s, or mine own. Yet this is nothing: I leave eternity to Thee; for what is man that he should live out the lifetime of his God?”

He said no more, but slowly waving a benediction, covered his face with his hands, and so remained kneeling, till all the people had departed, and he was left alone in the place.